Dear Little Me…..


“Dear Sibahle,

Unfortunately time machines are still a thing of the movies, I have not yet seen unicorns  nor pigs fly, and wishes on a star still barely come true. The former makes us hopeful though.. hopeful that we are yet to witness miracles happen, the hope saves our sanity.

People have found solace in materialistic gratification. Trips to Dubai, 18 inch Brazilian hair, instagram popularity and plenty of other temporary high’s seem to be the height of aspiration.

Amidst all the crazy, there is one important thing I need you to do for me.. and that is to relish in each moment. Life on earth is a temporary gift that we are given and no moment should be taken for granted. It is never about who has lived the longest but about who has made each moment count. Just as wisdom comes with time so does contentment come with gratitude. You will meet people along the way, just know that each and every person you come across was meant to cross your path and teach you a life lesson. Some will make you laugh, smile, dance, sing, jump, and some will make you angry, doubtful, cry and sad…Take each moment with a pinch of salt.

I can promise you that things get better from the 10th grade but you need to forgive all those bullying you. Holding on to hate and grudges is tiring and I don’t want that for you. When they call you “ugly, stuck-up, bad body structure, coconut, teachers pet” and all those hurtful words, it is never a reflection of who you are as a person but rather a reflection of the person uttering the words. For all the days you cry yourself to sleep because you never felt good enough, there is greater joy coming. You are phenomenal and no amount of hate from others will ever change that. Learn to keep your head up… it’s only sticks and stones.  People fail to realize how much power their words carry, but you need to forgive even those who haven’t asked for forgiveness. Free yourself, save your sanity!

You are enough, in fact you are more than enough, never let anyone tell you otherwise.

I’m still trying to figure out the rest but I am eternally grateful that you have turned out the way you have, because even though you are still a mystery to some, I am thankful for your strong spirit, your undying will and your love for all those around you. It’s okay to cry and be angry, but after the storm always comes the sun.

There is so much I wish I could keep you from doing, but, without stepping on those thorns and falling on that rock I wouldn’t have learnt these life lessons.

I love you… Always!


2016 Sibahle “


Published by Sibahle Teyise

Mholo, Hello, Groete, Sawubona, Lotjhani, Dumela, Ndaa, Avuxeni! I’m Sibahle Teyise, JAGWAT founder and head content writer. I have an Undergraduate Degree from UCT majoring in Public Policy and Literature, as well as a Postgraduate Diploma from UCT specialising in Marketing, Events Management and Business Communication. I am an author under construction, working on my book to be published soon- "When It Happens For Girls Like Us". I started JAGWAT in 2017, following the success of my personal blog - Tales Of The Mute. The inspiration to start JAGWAT came after hearing the sad stories of women being murdered on a daily basis, the violence against women as well as the many stories of women taking their own lives because of suffering in silence. JAGWAT provides a platform for women to take back the power by sharing their stories on a public central platform and with this, they show other women that they are not alone. I believe that when women stand together great things happen. No women should suffer in silence and the more we speak up as women and create a sisterhood and support group, the more powerful we can become. I am passionate about communities with women from disadvantaged backgrounds and JAGWAT supports Women Initiatives as well as making a difference in various schools from the township by offering assistance to learners in the form of mentorship and tutoring. I am a self-proclaimed book-worm and although I am a shy person, I am a motivational public speaker. I was heavily bullied in primary as well as high school and I am extremely passionate about Anti-Bullying campaigns and initiatives. I read, I write, I gym, I pray, I cycle, , I hike, I run, and pretty much everything in between. I am a weight loss motivator having lost 16kg in the past 2 years, which is quite an achievement for someone who can’t cook. (Thank GOD for food that can easily be boiled!!) I am a firm believer that an empowered women can empower other women and JAGWAT aims to be that platform for Women Empowerment. On a lighter note: I have the worst music playlist in the history of playlists.

2 thoughts on “Dear Little Me…..

    1. I didn’t share it when It was published. It was a very difficult post to write and I wasn’t comfortable sharing it with the world. Thank you for reading, I appreciate the support


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