My breasts don’t owe you any bra

Firstly, just having breasts on it own is a mission, mine are bigger than your average 25 year old girl so I am on a DOUBLE D mission every day of my life. Personally, I don’t like any sort of clothes, I jump at the opportunity of walking around with no clothes on, it makes me feel liberated, hence I like to keep my house visitors to a minimum. You know the saying “If they are flawless, you can go braless“, basically saying the only people who can get away with not wearing a bra are those with perky breasts and the rest of us can be damned??!! That is total and utter CRAP!! Firstly, what are flawless breasts? Is there such a thing? Breasts without flaws? Really? What year are we in? It’s okay to have a breast preference, small/big/middle, that’s your prerogative and I really do pray you are surrounded by the breasts you so desire.

Sometime in 2013 one of my then friends from University was laughing at this Facebook video, I failed to find the humour in the video, in fact as a woman I was appalled and offended. The video was made by a man and it was a one minute song about ladies breasts jiggling when they run and how women who don’t have firm breasts should rather walk instead of running. After the video this girl laughs and starts making these nasty comments about women whose breasts aren’t perky and how it’s gross, as a fellow women I just felt bad for her. Suffice to say we are no longer friends. It’s hard enough being a women and having to defend ourselves amongst men, its a double battle when we now have to defend ourselves amongst each other. One of the reasons I have minimum friends is because I do not tolerate the intolerable, and bashing other women is one of the things I consider intolerable.

“No-one has ever made himself great by showing how small someone else is”

It truly saddens my heart when I speak to some of my girlfriends and I hear just how hard they are on their bodies. One of my friends who recently went through a divorce broke my heart last week when she said:

“I have two kids Sibahle, whom I love with all my heart but my body just isn’t what it used to be. I have stretch marks, my breasts are saggy, I don’t even wear a bikini anymore, I wear shorts to the beach and I wear push up bras even when I sleep. My breasts just look horrible, what will the next person say? I just feel like it’s something I need to warn someone about on the first date. Don’t get me wrong I know I’m attractive and I don’t think I have a low self-esteem but I’m afraid of what the next person might say when they see my body“.

If I had a rand for every time I heard a girl refer to their breasts as being saggy and “gross”!! One of the definitions of saggy is “to decline, as in value and price“. So how is the value and price of breasts defined? By the circumference? By the shape? I’m really curious! You guys know that breasts contribute to developing an infant right? It produces food and sustenance for new born babies? Is that how breasts are valued? Is that how the price is determined? When, then, does the price/value decline? These terms are truly pathetic.

I’m sorry (not sorry) if my nipples offend you when I’m going shopping and I’m wearing my tank top without a bra. I’m sorry if you’re offended when I’m my running and my breasts move, I understand according to the status quo women are meant to wear a bra so their breasts are kept in check. I mean I understand that even though guys can go running without tops with their nipples in full view, it’s an abomination if a women’s nipples are visible. I’m not that extra I would never go running topless, but I will definitely not be wearing a bra on the weekend and after office hours unless I feel like I want to, if this is an offense to you, we’re living in a democracy – please exercise your right to look away just as I am exercising my right to free my nipples. Big or small, firm or not, wearing a bra is not an obligation for anyone – we do it as courtesy, please let’s not get it twisted!